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Showing posts with label Grandparent. Show all posts
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Sunday, April 8, 2012

Day 8, HAWMC Prompt:: Best Conversation

Day 8 of WEGO Health offers this prompt: "Best conversation I had this week."

I had an online conversation with a woman who found me on Facebook: she is a cousin going back in my maternal grandmother's family line.

The day she contacted me was my mother's birthday, and the name that caught her eye was my mother's mother's maiden name: Buxey. My name then is only a few degrees removed from her own; her maternal grandfather was my grandmother's first cousin.

After ascertaining that I was related to her, she offered to send the information on her branch of the family, and offered me another Facebook contact: that of a retired genealogist in South Africa, who has traced the Buxey family back as far as 1616 in England. This is a branch of our family about which I knew very little. I knew that my grandmother's grandmother had come from county Tyrone, Ireland, had lost her husband on the voyage over, and had then married a young British officer supervising the immigration. Beyond that, information was sketchy at best.

My parents had sat with relatives in the late 1960's to begin to draw up a chart of ancestors this side of the Atlantic. I have a few small pieces of paper written by my father's sister, giving the names of his mother and her brothers who emigrated from Edinburgh and Leith in Scotland, and the larger piece of paper in my parents' hand-writings listing the parents and grandparents of both sides of the family. But in the larger scheme, my mother's information showed only a small portion of her mother's family.

Her mother was one of twelve sisters and brothers, and the information given to me this week shows the descendents of many of those many relatives. With today's internet access, reaching out to a far removed cousin in South Africa seems natural, and common. I've forwarded the information that I gained on to my own sisters and brother, and my mother's nieces and nephews, all of whom will expand our family's branch of this developing lineage.

The history teacher within me marvels at the Canadian great grandparents who were born just before and just after America's Civil War Period, and those names recorded in church papers in England during the Protestant Reformation almost five hundred years ago. It is the family treasure that will be passed on to our own descendants, and one that we might never have known were it not for the internet connections of today.Whatever roles relatives may or may not have played in history's tableau remains to be discovered.

There was a family Bible begun with my parents' wedding in 1940, and it rests with one of my sisters now ... perhaps this new information will be placed within its covers in time. Meanwhile, it is still my intention to continue recording my own portion of the timeline, at the website titled Beyond Old Windows, and in packets of year by year pages tied in ribbons for my one day great great great grandchildren to find, and to share.


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Sunday, April 1, 2012

HAWMC: Prompt 1. Time Capsule

WEGO, a health activist site, is sponsoring a month long challenge for leaders of health care. A quote from their blog reads:" If online health communities are an unruly high school, then Health Activists are its dedicated teachers – and WEGO Health is the teacher’s lounge. We help leaders to come together, to learn from each other, and to go back to their classrooms better at their craft."

Their first prompt of the month (no, this is not an April Fool's Day prompt) is to imagine what you might put into a health time capsule to be opened one hundred years from today. To read the full prompt, go to their website. Here is my response to this prompt: 
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"What do you think it is?"
"I don't know yet ... I can't get it open, it's covered in tape. It must have been up here in the rafters of this old barn for decades."
"Maybe it's a deed ... or a certificate of stock ... maybe it's something really valuable! Hurry up, open it!"
"Let me get one of those old tools we saw below, the one with the plastic handle and the flat end on the rod..."


The two brothers jumped down the short distance from the attic of their great-grandfather's barn. The tool they found was encrusted in rust and of no use to them, so they took they small packet into the house, where they placed it on the chopping block table. Reaching for a pair of zip scissors, they sliced off a sixteenth of an inch from one edge, and reached inside. The page inside was neatly creased and fell into two sections when unfolded.


"It's a letter, dated 2012, and signed by our great great great grandmother! Remember the story of the package of pages tied in ribbons that our great grandmother found about fifty years ago, the one that told all about life at the turn of the millennium? She gave it to the historical society when she found it. Dad told me that his grandmother wanted people to know what life was like for women born in the twentieth century. The pages were all about school-teaching, and learning to use primitive technology by typing on a keyboard ..."


"Read it! Why did she leave this note out in the barn? Why wasn't it with the rest of the pages? Is it really from her? Is it really a hundred years old? How old was she when she wrote it?"


"Give me a minute ... this one is hand-written, in the old style, with the loopy letters, and the ink is fading. Here's what I think it says:"

For whoever finds this note, please excuse the handwriting. My eyesight is worsening and the tremors in my hands are increasing, but I wanted to write this with liquid ink, so that it wouldn't fade away as print might. 

They tell me I have multiple sclerosis. I don't really believe them, for no one in my family, for generations past, has ever been labeled such. My father, his brother, and his mother all had Parkinson's Disease, and they showed the same symptoms that I have. But the doctors who diagnosed me disregard that history, for doctors in the past hadn't the modern technology of magnetic resonance imaging that we have. The clunking, banging, noisy scans reveal innumerable lesions on my brain, and on my spine. And the lumbar puncture, the long needle poked into my spinal cord, revealed bands in my spinal fluid, and that too is said to be an indicator of MS.

My first neurologist insisted on ruling everything else out, and said that I didn't have  PD because my arms did not jerk when he rotated my elbow. He prescribed what was thought to be important: a disease modifying drug that I would have to inject with a syringe every night, rotating among seven different areas of my body that had adequate layers of fat beneath the skin. Just the thought of that annoyed me, but he said that it would possibly delay the progression of multiple sclerosis' nerve degeneration by about a third. Small promise, I thought. But I went along with his prescription.

For almost five years I and my husband patiently, carefully, scheduled and rotated the injections, which always burned for twenty minutes afterward. But when I began to read about differences of opinion regarding the cause of this so-far incurable disease, and read that some disagreed that it was an immune disorder, seeing it rather as a metabolic disorder, I knew that my choice at diagnosis to change my eating style was a good decision, and was probably enough. No meat, no dairy products other than yogurt, nothing fried ... I'd lost a good deal of weight that first year, and hadn't had a relapse since diagnosis.

Oh, I'd had symptoms, but they were never called relapses. In my late fifties, a cataract could be causing the blurred vision. Weakness and vertigo in the hot humid summer was attributed to the weather, as it could be easily remedied by moving into a cooler space. Depression, anxiety and fear, loss of the ability to learn new things by reading, and forgetting my students' names were all attributed to life stresses. I had to leave my beloved classroom, and retire a few years earlier than planned. 

When that happened to me, I made my decision to discontinue the injections, and soon felt more like myself. My energy increased, my ability to read and write improved, and without the stress of the classroom and with antidepressant medication, I began to take an interest in life again. It was too late to save my teaching career, and my ability to remember new things was never going to return to what it had been when I could learn one hundred new student names and profiles every year, but I could begin a new career.

And that is why I'm writing today. I want to tell my children's children, and their grandchildren's grandchildren, to listen to their inner selves. I want to show them that taking care of their metabolism is important. I want them to know that eating a menu of vegetables, beans, seeds, and berries is a healthy choice. I want them to recognize that when a medication with slim promises doesn't help and causes more issues than existed before it is okay to tell a doctor 'No thank you.'

I suppose in a few more decades, or half a century ahead, or in the next century itself, all of this will seem primitive and ridiculous. When we look back at how illness was treated a century ago, in 1912, when people with Parkinson's Disease or assumed Multiple Sclerosis were told simply to go home and rest, limiting their strength by inactivity, we shake our heads and say they ought to have known better. 

Perhaps my descendents will look upon today's medical advancements as short-sighted. Maybe the nutritional aspects of disease symptoms will be looked at first in the next century. We look back today at the twentieth century's widespread use of pesticides and herbicides and shake our heads, realizing the damage they have caused to ourselves and to our gene pools. 

At any rate, whoever is reading this: you have the opportunity and responsibility to live a healthier lifestyle. We began to make  forward steps at the beginning of this twenty-first century. We recognized the faults of the earlier generations, and did our best to avoid the known carcinogens in our environments and in our lifestyle choices. 

Know that I love you, and want the best for you. It is up to you to seek it out.
Terry Crawford Palardy

PS: I asked my husband to tuck this note into the rafters of the barn because, as anyone alive today knows, the barns are often kept in better shape than the houses, for it is the barns that allow a space to earn a living. 


"Wow. It really is her note. She could be standing right here, talking to us."
"What are we going to do with this? Give it to the historical society? They can add it to the database and store it away with her other writings."
" I guess so. I don't know, it seems like something we ought to share with someone ... but who?"

The boys left the packet on the table,  planning to show it to their dad, later.
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Monday, March 5, 2012

June Shaw's Relative Danger, a novel of family and school murder


Relative Danger  by June Shaw

It's not easy being a relative ... adolescents would agree, in-laws would agree, and sometimes parents and grandparents even agree. June Shaw has written a mystery novel that involves the intricacies of three generations, three individuals, daughter, father and grandmother, coming together to celebrate a life event: high school graduation.

There is no mother in the picture; Nancy died several years before her daughter Kat reached high school age. Kat's dad, Roger, is still living a subdued life as a widower, and is now foreseeing what his home will be like when his daughter goes off to college. Roger's widowed mother, Cealie, comes to town to catch up with her son and granddaughter between her travels as a single woman who is finding herself.

When Cealie realizes that her granddaughter has stopped attending classes and may miss final exams, and is considering not attending the graduation ceremony at all, she is stunned. Cealie had made a death-bed promise to her daughter-in-law Nancy that she would see her granddaughter graduate, and up until now, Kat had been on the way to do so with honors and scholarships.  It doesn't take long for Cealie to find out that there has been a death at the high school, and that Kat seems deeply affected  by the circumstances of the young custodian's death, and preoccupied with and perhaps afraid of who might have caused that death.

Cealie struggles with her maternal feelings of protective love for both her son and granddaughter and her recent decision to live life as a single, independent woman. But to help return her granddaughter's confidence and scholarship, Cealie enters the high school as a substitute teacher. She finds a vastly different setting in the large crowded school, recognizing that clothing and manners have changed both students and faculty from her recollections of teaching in a small private school decades earlier. She observes the cold structure, the anger and rudeness, the frustration and resignation of senior staff and the hustle and bustle of a teacher's full day. She experiences attacks first on herself and then on another teacher; she also hears of the shooting death of a substitute teacher like herself, and determines to help the police find the person responsible for these acts in their effort to keep her granddaughter and other students safe.

June Shaw's characters are richly developed, whether they are main characters or secondary. Her description of physical attributes is clear, as is the point of view of a grandmother finding her way into her granddaughter's world. Cealie's relationship with her son hovers between sheltering him from what she sees happening and bolstering his own strength and involvement in Kat's life. She talks to herself, and talks to her houseplant, her beloved cactus named Minnie, trying to sort out the sketchy line she is walking. Her mixed messages, both those received and sent, emotionally resonate with readers who share the same family role.

CHICAGO - SEPTEMBER 28: Police Patrol at a gat...Cealie's life is further complicated by the presence of her former lover, Gil, a restauranteur with a Cajun flare whom Cealie still loves but does not want to settle down with. This tension creates another layer of mystery in this story, and Shaw brings all of the characters into it within their established roles. And  yet, with her family around her, Cealie still feels alone in dealing with the worry and angst, unwilling to share her concerns with Gil or with her son. And she feels that she must re-enter the dreaded building to determine how the death occurred, and who the responsible person is.

June Shaw's mystery remains unsolved until the very end, and her story engages the reader's feelings, no matter what the role of the reader in the family may be.  Five Stars for Shaw's Relative Danger!
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